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Unfortunately, I have already been to two funerals this year. I also just found out that a childhood friend of mine has recently passed away. Just 31 years young. It really makes me put this life into perspective. We have all experienced loss at some point in our lives. Whenever it hits close to home for me, I constantly try to remind myself , “We are confident, and would prefer to be away from the body and at home with the Lord.” 2 Corinthians 5:8. In other words, if we are not here in our earthly body, we are present with the lord. It’s really hard to cling to this when you are experiencing a loss, but it does bring some peace, at least for me.
Loss hit very close to home for me last year when I loss my cousin last spring, just before my birthday and then again last fall when I experienced a miscarriage. Both of these experiences were very hard and challenging to get through.
My cousin was such a bright light on this earth. I remember her always taking me with her and her sister when I was younger. They would do my hair, let me play in their clothes, and take me around town with them so I wasn’t bored at home. She led a praise dance team and was just such a great friend and loved one to everyone she met. I will admit as I got older we lost touch and were not as close as we used to be. Being able to celebrate her life for the time that I had her was a blessing. Losing her has taught me to try to cherish my family and friends as much as I can. It has also taught me to try to live a life that’s pleasing to God. To love others as you love yourself and always being kind in every situation. I have to admit this is something I’m still working on.
I was only pregnant for 10 short weeks. I didn’t find out I was pregnant until I was 6 weeks along. Having the doctor tell me that my baby did not have a heartbeat and that my pregnancy was not going to progress was heartbreaking. Although, we were not planning to have a baby, I had grown to love my unborn child such a short amount of time. I am confident that God has better plans for us! We will have a happy and healthy baby when the time is right. Lots of prayer and talking to close family members really helped me get through that time. Of course I had those normal feelings of fear and doubt. Fear that I had done something wrong and doubt that I would never be able to successfully carry a child in the future. However, allowing myself to mourn, praying, and understanding God’s timing really helped me through. It also helped to know I wasn’t alone. I wasn’t the only woman in the world that had experienced this. It really brought some comfort.
Getting closer to God and learning scripture helps us to cope with loss. You just have to trust and believe that the words you are reading are true. Below are a few scriptures that I have found comforting.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” Matthew 5:4
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-5
“When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, but the Lord delivers him out of them all. He keeps all his bones; not one of them is broken.” Psalm 34:17-20
“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
If you have any tips or scriptures that have helped you with loss. Please feel free to share them below. ♥