My Problem with Forgiveness


I have always been such a proponent for justice. In my mind things should always be fair and those who wrong others should always pay the consequences no matter what.

At 31 years young, I have come to the realization that I have a problem with forgiveness. Not only forgiving those that have wronged me, but those who have done wrong to those around me. In the past, if someone did wrong to me or my loved ones, it seems like God granted me grace and just removed them from my life. I no longer had to see that person or deal with that person again.

These days I feel like God is teaching me something. In recent years I have not had the pleasure of escaping those I feel have done wrong to me and my loved ones. I have had to see and interact with these people. So much so that I’ve actually had to be cordial and try not to let my emotions show about what they have done.

Injustice is such a hard pill for me to swallow. I know that eventually these people will pay for their sins against others, but it’s just difficult for me when I don’t see justice served sooner rather than later.

It’s such a hard concept for me to wrap my mind around. That God would allow people to get away with such evil and manipulative deeds. But thank God for Matthew 5:44-48. Love your enemies. Not only do we need to forgive others and show them the same grace that God has given us. We also need to love others as Christ loves us. Loving those who love us is easy, but loving those who are “hard” to love is something we can only do through the help of Christ.

Our greatest command is to love God with all our hearts and to love others. So instead of complaining about those who have wrong me and others, I need to be praying for them. My purpose is to spread the love of Jesus, not to judge and condemn people. Not to wish that I get to see them reap their comeuppance. Even though, to be honest, I really want to see justice served. I can only fully love everyone, the just and unjust, through God’s help. Through prayer and petition that He would soften my heart and win the souls of those who do evil not only to me, but to those around me.

If you can relate, let me know in the comments how you were able to overcome your personal feelings and forgive.


2 thoughts on “My Problem with Forgiveness

  1. I know the feeling! Forgiving others is definitely harder if you have to see and interact with them regularly. I too find peace in looking to God to remove any negative feelings from my mind and heart when interacting with someone who has done me wrong. It’s not easy to set those feelings aside, but it is absolutely necessary.

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